Quiet, Grief, Sadness

Assalamualaikum,

So today's the topic of negativity.

Some of you might think,

What are you thinking Husna, that's not a nice thing to say!
We should spread the message of positivity, not negativity!

Well, that is right. But here i'm gonna share of some certain negativity problems that keeps running through everyone's head, especially teens like me.

1. Relationship with God

Allah, the most Almighty and worthy has created us from the contempt (hina) semen (air mani) so we, as the slaves of Him have to obey the things Allah has told to and leave the nasty things afar. Indeed, its for our zhat (kebaikan) as well.

Example? The limit of socializing between the female and male (ikhtilat). Let us think of this situation. If we have a boy/girlfriend we'll like totally booze out of school. We'll have to spend money to give them gifts, waste time to chat with them and so on. Besides, to those of you who HAVE been in a relationship, every time it doesn't work out, you're sure to be depressed, stressed and still cant stop thinking of them, right? And sometimes you'll find someone new just because you want to rub it in their face.

Do you want to be like a pair of socks? When you're stinky, they could go find a new pair of socks amd wear them, leaving the old pair of socks in the washing machine to get wet (sad) just so they could then use you again? Or do you want to be like those diamonds (you) in the glass cupboards untouched just waiting for the buyer (husband) ?

2. Relationship with family
This is a hard topic as i have this problem a lot. But there's one simple explanation.

TAWAKKAL ALALLAH

{Refer: berserah kepada Allah}

Sometimes we fight with our siblings, but sometimes because of silly things right? Not sharing the last piece of bread, she ate the last gumball but seriously there will come a time when we become matured and realize we are so silly fighting for things like that. In fact, the world's problems are much bigger.
Next, our parents. Some of you might have wonderful parents. Some not so. Some rich. Some poor. Some stingy. Some not. But the thing is, they're our parents. They just want the best for us. Thats all. We should be thankful that there are people who care for us. Maybe we have parents divorced, and that's a bigger issue. Although everything happening so fast, we must be patient as Allah rewards those who are patient. ( may Allah ease your affairs ).

3. Relationship with friends
This is a mainstream topic among teens. Though i have recently been through this. Alhamdullilah settled. Well at least i think so.

Friends are easy to find but hard to keep. So many materialistic and individualistic friends are now living in this world. But to have a real friend, is a friend that leads you to Allah.

 Allah says that brings the meaning,

{Good friends on that day become enemies except those who are Taqwa}
' teman-teman karib pada hari itu saling bermusuhan antara satu sama lain, kecuali mereka yang bertaqwa. '
[ az-Zukhruf, 43:67]

The moral of the ayaat is that we have to be friends because of Allah, not because of looks or wealth or any materialistic stuff.

to sum up, we're all sad about certain things. Even i cry about the ridonkeylous things, but that's how Allah created us, with feelings. Although we do have feelings aka I'M ONLY HUMAAAN, we have to learn how to control it, as it can also bring danger to ourselves. So please, love yourself and others. Don't be sad, be happy. Allah is always with you ! :)

-HR